Michelle Elman | Curvy Confessions

Curvy Confessions is a 1 on 1 conversation with plus-size, full-figured, curvy, body positive influencers and models. I started this series to help empower, uplift and encourage women to feel positive about their bodies and become comfortable in their own skin!!

Who are you? 
I am Michelle Elman. I live in London and am 23 years old. I am a Body Confidence Coach trained in Hypnotherapy, Time Line Therapy, Neurolingustic Programming and NLP Coaching.

Why do you embrace being plus-size? 
I decided to embrace my body when I realised I had been spending my whole life trying to change it. I had wasted so much time and energy on trying to be a different size through diets, that I had sacrificed so much of my life and opportunities to have fun because I was so concerned about what I looked like. I decided to start accepting my body how it was, just to try something different and then I realised how liberating it was. 

Did you have a difficult journey to accepting your body?
Yes, especially around my scars. I have had 15 surgeries and the bulk of my scars were created when I was young so my body has always been different from the norm and that was tough as a child, and especially as a teenager. Growing up, all you want to do is fit in and be normal and I was never given that option. I thought the solution was to hide my scars and never talk about it but it was actually the exact opposite that helped. Starting my campaign Scarred Not Scared and wearing a bikini for the first time was the most empowering thing I could ever have done. 

What are your views on the latest inclusion of plus-size women in fashion? 
I think it's great. It shows young girls that every body is capable of being fashionable and it shows more than one type of beauty. I would prefer we stopped segmenting women into straight size and plus size though - I don't understand the need for the distinction.

Where is your favourite fashion place to shop? 
ASOS Curve! I don't know how I dressed before it because in shops it's so hard to find my size.

Your favourite body part and why?
My stomach because my scars make it unique. I have the only stomach in the world that looks like mine. I grew up hating this part of me and I think now, because I love it, I love it the most because I worked the hardest to love it.

What advice could you give a young girl/woman who may be struggling with her body image?
To immerse herself in body positivity online. Make sure your social media and your newsfeeds are body positive, follow people you make you feel better about yourself and your body. Anyone who tells you that you need to change your body in order to love it, doesn't deserve to be on your newsfeed.

There's a pretty awful meme going around about how you look fit lying flat and not so much when you are on your side. (I'm not going to share the original meme but swipe right for my @bodypositivememes version.) Here is my real life version. Bodies have many angles. Bodies move, change and depending on which position you are, you are going to look like you carry weight in different areas. That's ok! The assumption that you look better lying flat is still heavily dependent on the belief that skinnier is better and the flatter your stomach the better. I beg to differ. WHATEVER YOUR BODY TYPE IS IS BETTER! Regardless of how much weight I lose, my stomach will never be flat. My scars have created deep indents and that created my largest insecurity at 11 years old. Even in t-shirts, my stomach looked like 3 rolls and dressing each morning brought a new task of trying to hide these rolls. It's ok to not have a flat stomach when you are lying down. It's ok to be round or lumpy and bumpy like I am. I am still lovable. Flattering angles are overrated. These photos were taken while I was messing around, not looking and wasn't posing for a photo but instead simply tanning while my friend was learning how to use my camera. Being ready for a photo is overrated. Posing for a photo is overrated. It's why I started #OneTakeBeauty . Also forever repping scars in #ScarredNotScared 👙: @curvykate
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Do you have a favourite quote/saying?
It's a shame for anyone to grow old without realising the strength and beauty your body is capable of.

How do you celebrate your body?
By listening to it and making the most of it by making the most of my time on this earth. I believe you celebrate your body most when you celebrate your life most. Use your body as the vehicle it was designed to be and be grateful to your body for keeping you around long enough to enjoy your life.

Describe your body in 3 words.

Strong, Resiliant and Mine. 

Much love to Michelle for sharing her insight and encouragement for body positivity. Make sure you follow Michelle on her platforms below!


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